Confidence

All my life I have found it hard to say out loud that I am good at something. Not until recently was I actually able to do so. I make it a habit now. When I am feeling like I am not good enough or someone has made me feel that way I list all the things I know I am good at. I think this is a great practice to build your self esteem. I actually think it is essential to being confident in yourself as a person. I spent many years unsure of who I was and allowed to many people to tell me who I should be. It wasn’t until maybe two or three years ago that I truly started to be confident and proud in who I truly am. I always try to encourage those around me to acknowledge the things they are good at. I grew up thinking I was not good at anything. I never saw myself as smart, and not until recently did I really think I was pretty. It took years to build up my image of myself to look in the mirror and truly think that my reflection was beautiful. Now I can say with confidence and no feeling of guilt that I am beautiful. Inside and out. Some may think that is prideful but I don’t. I want everyone to be able to look in the mirror and think the same thing. I want everyone to feel confident in who they are on the inside and well as on the outside.

I also had trouble seeing my worth. I wasn’t good at school I wasn’t athletic and I didn’t think I was that good at art. I felt like all there was to me was a heart condition. I felt like that is all people were proud of when they thought of me. I hated it because it wasn’t something I chose it wasn’t something someone can be good at. It just was something I happened to be born with. It seemed like everyone around me had some sort of talent. Art, sports or learning but I didn’t. I always felt like if I said I was good at something someone would correct me and say I was just okay. I also felt like it would be prideful and wrong. But that is all a load of crap! It is more than okay to say you are good at something even if no-one beside you has ever said it. If you believe it enough and say it with confidence those around you will believe you and start thinking it and saying it too. You should be your biggest cheerleader. You should be your biggest support.

Confidence does not happen overnight but it does happen. It may take some time but you will get to the point where you can say with the MOST confidence that you are good at something. Or you are pretty or handsome or even drop-dead gorgeous! To be honest it is still hard for me sometimes. It is easy to say it in my head but actually speaking it and writing it down…that makes me nervous. But I am continuously working on it.

Here it goes…I am a good writer. I am beautiful. I am smart. I am confident. I am strong, physically and mentally. I know my worth. I am important. I am worth my time. I love myself.

See it’s not so bad. Self affirmations are important. Being proud of who you are as a person is important. Being confident in who you are as a person is important. It may be hard but don’t let anyone tell you who you are or aren’t. They don’t know…they are not you. The only person who truly knows who you are and what you are capable of is YOU.